Tuesday, 23 April 2013

A Letter of Forgiveness: From an Abused Wife to a Husband

Dear Husband,

I understand that you must be hating me as much as I have hated you. I understand that facing my prejudice and discouragement at times have indeed taken a toll on you. I realize that probably our marriage was what it was because of our vastly different personalities.

Yet as we move on, I think you were not as mature as you should have been in handling this relationship. I understand you had demons of your own that you needed help for. Being a neglected child is not the best foundation for anyone; especially when your twin is the quintessential bratty center of attraction. This probably is the reason why you were always so unreasonable, rude, adamant and sought attention.

But I forgive you.

As a husband, you could have shown more concern when I was injured, shown more respect when your family treated me with utter disdain, showered love and care when I was low but you chose not to. I forgive you for that. I always believed being a husband and wife meant sharing our joys and sorrows and being there for each other but while you enjoyed my happy times and all that I could offer, you left me when I was injured without even saying a word or without even leaving back anything that was mine, yours or ours. You disappeared into thin air. Forgiving you for this has not been easy but I have finally found it in me to forgive you. I forgive you. For all the pain and misery that you brought onto me and my family when you say you do not want me but want all my possessions, I have for long harbored resentment against you. Today, I forgive you.

I forgive you.

I know you have had a difficult life so far and this marriage was a part of your yearning to turn your life back on track. I know it has been difficult. Today as we both look to move ahead and make fresh beginnings, I know that the path to recovery and healing is long and difficult, but I forgive you and wish from the bottom of my heart that this is that end of the tunnel where you see light. I wish most sincerely that you have a long, happy and prosperous life ahead, a life that makes up for all the sorrows you have had.

Good Luck my husband. With this marriage, you are a very significant part of me and shall always remain in my prayers.

Warm Regards,


  1. Hi is this Rose? This is Esther. :) I'll read more of your blog but I will reply to the other site I found you on. Take care.

    1. Hi Esther. Yes it was me who wrote as Rose :)
      Thankyou for both reading my blog and reading my question on your site!!!

  2. Joel 2:25
    "I will compensate you for the years
    that the locusts have eaten—the swarming locusts,
    The creeping locusts, the stripping locusts, and the cutting locusts—[a]
    My great army that I unleashed against you.

    This is a great promise for you! :) God is a just God.

    1. Thankyou so much Esther!!!!
      It makes me feel so hopeful and strong in my belief in God!!