Tuesday, 21 April 2015

Hypocrisy, pretence and the dot com world

I was Facebooking recently when a post caught my eye. An acquaintance of mine, albeit an FB friend had posted about a spinster who refused to get married because her prospective in laws did not want her to continue running a shelter she ran for the orphans. The post gave a gist of how she went about it and the encouragement she received from her mom. The FB friend of mine wasted no words in praising her courage and effort and urged others to be like her. Reading this, however, made my blood boil. No, I do admire the lady who stood her own and did what she believed in, despite the odds and resistance. I also believe that, this, was a post worth sharing. What made my blood boil was the fact that this person who shared it on her wall was not someone who believed in it in reality. She was the same person who is busy digging up gossip on why another friend remains unmarried. She is the same person who does not think twice before doling out advice on "landing" good guys in marriage. I wonder what she must be thinking when she hit share on this post. Was it because it would make her look cool? Whenever I run into her I always get the feeling she truly believes in her antiquated and often misplaced views about how things should be. A girl should behave a certain way, you are too ugly to get married (Yes, she did say this to someone dear and therefore the volcano in my blood), girls should get married, stay married. And she has made these views of her very public in her talks and gossips yet it baffles me why she chooses a diametrically different view when it comes to her online persona. Why does she want to be projected online as someone that she so clearly is not? It leaves me with another question, are people's opinions in the virtual world the same as their opinions in the real world or are they just two different people in two different worlds? Why this pretense, this hypocrisy in the virtual world? Why are you praising something when in reality you abhor it? Does it not implicitly imply that you feel somewhere deep down that you may be wrong and you need to right the wrong? Are you justifying for something that you are not? Trying to project that you are broad minded? If that's the case why shouldn't you try to right the wrong in the real world? Why the virtual world where it probably makes nothing better for you. Baffling to me. Perhaps she believes that her words on the virtual word are far more heard than those in real world. Or maybe she believes people are stupid enough to think the virtual her is the real person. Different people, different understanding. The only good that I had was that now I know she's a hypocrite. But what's sadder is probably the fact that she knows she's one.

Wednesday, 25 March 2015

My Comeback Post

So, its been really long since I wrote anything. Over an year. I am watching TV and I suddenly feel like writing. Writing about something good, something positive, something calming. Something white. Something straight from my heart, but what do I write about? I am feeling good these days, there's a sense of satisfaction and happiness and my outlook's been good but I really cannot point whats made the difference that I have moved from my old sad, depressed self to the happy, hopeful me. I wonder now, I want to know that trigger. If it has helped me now, it might help me in future too. Reminds me of a old story that I had read ages ago. Goes something like this, once upon a time a very happy but bored king summons his minsters and asks them to find something that can instantly make a sad man happy and make a sad man happy. All the ministers search far and wide but are not able to find anything that would serve their purpose. One day in a faraway place, they stumble upon an old wise man and tell him their predicament. He thinks for a while and gives them a ring to take to the king. He tells them that this is a magical ring that makes sad people happy and happy people sad. Satisfied and happy, the ministers take this magical ring to present to their king. The happy king sees the ring and sure enough, the ring works its magic and the king becomes sad. The magic of the ring lies in its inscription. The inscribed words 'This too shall pass' gleam from the ring. Everything shall pass one day, the good and the bad. Nothing can be hastened or nothing can be skipped. We just have to wait. Patiently. That, could explain my new found calmness. May be somewhere deep inside I believe my pain shall pass too and good times are just round the corner. Nature is full of examples and I see them now. Day and night, both pass too. Waves in the sea rise and fall. Seasons change.  Pain heals and good times make a comeback. Now back to my old topic, I do not have a "topic" to write about. Should I write about India's WC semis that's to happen tomorrow, should I write about the book I am reading or should I write about the depressing shows on TV. I think I'll skip the depressing talk, this post is all about being happy and chirpy. May be I should just stop rambling and think hard about a topic and then get back. Think, think and think....